Hi. Me again. I know I only ever write when I’m upset or
something catastrophic has happened to me and for that I’m sorry, but I’ve got
to get this out.
I hit 36 in May of this year. I’m getting on (in dog years, I’d be
dead). As every media outlet seems to
delight in telling me, I’m not getting any younger, so I should probably start
a family or something. Well dear
readers, I’ve tried (not like the Immaculate Conception, obvs) actually, I
should probably say WE’VE tried, and nothing is happening. And it’s probably all my fault.
I’m morbidly obese, according to the BMI scale. And I’m shocking trying to do anything about
it. Sure, we both try to eat healthier,
but as with everything, that falls off during the month until we’re just eating
junk and crap and getting takeaways instead of cooking. And each time, I beat myself up, each time, I
fall back there. And I’m not an
emotional eater; if anything I’m an emotional starver.
To add to things, I can’t exercise at the moment due to a
stupid trip down the stairs that’s fucked my hip up (I can’t tell you how
excited I am to have a man jam a steroid injection into my hip joint – but I
don’t know when that’s going to happen – could be a fortnight, could be
November). So my movements are very
restricted, walking can be agony at times, so treadmill running (which I
actually enjoy) is way out of the question.
So being a fatty isn’t conducive to conception, it certainly
also means that IVF isn’t an option either.
I’m so desperate to lose weight AND have a child that it’s all I can
think about. If I wasn’t such a great
big fucking fat mess, then we’d be swimming in kids now, probably. I’ve even enquired about a gastric bypass so
that I can’t eat the world. My circle of close friends, bar one, have at
least one child. I’ve jokingly said to
my friend who has four that should she pop out another, could she just let me
have it instead? It’s easy to try to
laugh it off; it isn’t so easy to hide the pain and the tears regarding a
situation that is ultimately probably my own making.
I know I probably shouldn’t be whinging on about how I’m
fat, I’m well aware it’s my own fault, it’s just losing weight isn’t easy,
especially when you suffer with depression, low self-esteem and that nagging
feeling that you’re an embarrassment to your friends and loved ones due to your
size. I grew up with the mind-set that
fat cannot be attractive, although there are hundreds of THOUSANDS of
exceptions to this rule. I found myself
perusing ‘pro ana’ sites as I browsed for which VLCD was best. And that frightens me, but then again, I’ve felt like a failure for not being able
to develop an eating disorder for fucks sake – how screwed in the head am
I? Like that is how any normal person thinks. I’ve downloaded a ‘virtual gastric band’
hypnosis app, knowing that it’ll just be mumbo jumbo bollocks and won’t help me
a jot (still going to try though, I have to).
I suppose this is heading, ultimately, to the fact that I am
just terrified that I am never going to have a child of my own, I’m never going
to give birth, hold nine months’ worth of work, blood, cells, love; nine
months’ worth of David and me mixed together into a teeny tiny mewling pink
ball of new human. I know there’s adoption
which is something that we’ve discussed in the past, but to me, right at this
moment in time, I want to feel how being pregnant feels, the tiredness, the
puke, the ankle swelling, the constant need for weeing, the contractions, all
of it.
If I start dieting now, I don’t know how long it will take
for me to get to a weight where I can actually realistically conceive, assisted
or not. I’m scared I’ll be too old; I’ll
be 40 or over. But Christ knows, I have
to do it, I have to try.
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| Try harder, you stupid critter. |
